Sex, Love and Oneness

I was having a conversation today with a man I feel more and more connected to. The conversation was about love and its manifestation as a physical connection or what we call sex, the emotional/heart connection what we call love, and the spiritual/soul connection which is compassion or Oneness. In an intimate relationship does the connection deepen starting with sex, moving to love and then if you are blessed to Oneness? And when you are in love or in oneness what is the role of sex?

I think life is a flow, as you reach higher planes of consciousness or connection, you still do have access to the lower planes and you can come down to play on those levels if you choose to. When you are experiencing Oneness, perhaps there is no role for sex, as you are One and there is no Other to experience. In otherwords you experience them so completely that the physical experience is but one small aspect of it. You can always choose to step into a lower level of consciousness to play the game of sex to experience another aspect of connectedness, but it would have a very different feel and essence to it is my guess.

When you are in Love or have a deep emotional heart connection, you are still conscious of being separate from the other. In this plane sex or passion has a more meaningful place. We all have a light side and a dark side. We need to express and experience both sides to feel alive and fullfilled in this existance. For a man the light sides might be providing, building, serving. For a woman it might be nurturing, caring, accepting etc. The dark sides for a man might be being powerful and agressive and for a woman being seductive and playful. (Note: When I say man and woman, I am primarily talking about masculine and faminine energies. We all have both these energies and sometimes due to conditioning a woman might behave more like a man and vice versa. Although I think we come alive in a different level when we get closer to our true nature) The dark sides need not be destructive, it is also the creative energy. While the light sides are the sustaining energy. When a couple feels safe to express and experience both their dark and light sides in a relationship it can really thrive and be very fulfilling and make room for a soul connection.

I think sexuality can provide the playing field for the dark energies of a couple. While love or the heart connection offers the playing field for the light energies. Now sexuality is broader than sex. Sexuality is actually mostly in the mind. It could just be flirting, a glance, a touch, but its what creates the aliveness. Pure sex without the sexuality in not sustainable in my opinion. A flow of the masculine and faminine dark energies can be more satisfying for a couple than a momentary flow the sexual fluids, while that too has its place in the flow of life.

XOXO ;)
Samanvitha